To be nice or Not to be nice? That is the question

Ok, Ok, So I haven’t written yesterday – a day after the wedding – So what?

Truth is, I was wayyy tired when I came back home from the wedding on Thursday at 3am (!!!), I was so tired on one hand but then on the other so energetic I couldn’t go to sleep until 4am. During that hour I arranged the flowers I brought from the wedding, this time I really overdone it – I brought a huge bouquet of white lilies, a couple of pinkish lilies (I just love that flower – Lilies and Orchids, my absolute favorite) and a white flowers arrangement. heh, can you imagine me carrying them all, plus my handbag and the bag with my working shoes, at 3am? you could hardly tell it’s me, it looked like a humanflower garden, hehe.

Anyhow, the house has never smelled so good… then again, we never had more than one flower bouquet in the house, now we have 3 at the same time.

On Sunday I heard we’re going to have an Austrian wedding. I wonder what’s the flowers going to be like. LOL, good thing we have 2 extra vases, in case the flowers I brought now won’t dry out by then…

Back to the last wedding. It was, as told, a wedding. At the reception I was stationed at the sirloin on a wooden skewer and hot BBQ sauce buffet. I was a little bit concerned with how I’m going to handle it all, because some of the meat was ready to eat and some was to be cooked in-front of the crowd – and I know nothing about cooking meat. It’s a good thing I had another guy with me at that buffet. He did the cooking, and I did the serving. I couldn’t ask for a better partner – he was funny, made me laugh the nerves away, heh. I kept joking on my expense that the reason I’m so, heh, uptight, is probably an effect caused by my “change of life” now that I’m about to turn 30. At some point, he asked if he can give me an advice and I was, “let me guess, Age’s is just a number?” and he said, “no, my advice is stop being so nice to people”. At first, I couldn’t get if he was talking in general or to that exact time – though I have to agree, I took being courteous to another level during the reception, heh.

I can’t help being nice to people. I’m a nice girl, heh. I was taught that if I’m nice to people, they’ll be nice to me in return. But I guess, and I think that this is what he reffered to, some people might take advantage of my caracter and, well, not be so nice in return. Well, it’s their problem and their personality, I’m not worried because as nice as I am, if I’m being taken advantage off maliciously or double crossed by someone, well, let’s just say that it’ll take more than “I’m sorry” to gain my trust back…

Anyhow, after the reception everyone went inside the hall to eat. I served 3 tables. two double tables with people at their 20s-30s and one single table with senior citizens. When I came to introduce myself and offer my help with drinks and stuff, I tried a different style of introduction in every table, well, different crowd. I made one of the 20s-30s tables to burst in laughter when I made the notion that if they do need anything at all, I’m around and very hard to miss due to my height.

A couple of minutes later, I can’t remember now if that was before or after they went to the buffets to grab some food, I think it was before… Anyway, a few moments later, one of the guys at that table called me over and I came readily to get their drinks orders when he stretched out a hand with 20 shekels (about $6) saying this is for me. I was surprised, and didn’t hide it from them, when after thanking them for the tip I said that I hardly had the chance to serve them. The guy who gave me the money said it’s given because of my good will and then came their drinks requests.

I know 20 shekels isn’t much, but at least it was something, right? My kindness didn’t go in vain and it totally made my evening, fueled me with the energy to give them all good service. Sadly, it was the only tip I got that night – But, no matter, I know I gave good service.